How does someome say no without damaging a friendship . A friend of mine is travelling 2000 miles  with a 5 year old daughter, she has a job in my area and her boss is accomidating her at this time. she doesnt want to impose  all the time because her friend needs her time with her family.She wants me to do the driving around and have her stay when she wants.I told her i have 1 bathroom and i would take it one day at a time.What to do without hurting?Space is limited and money tight

This is a tricky one, especially if your friend is used to people falling in with her wishes.  You don't want to lose a friend, but you need your space too.  Do you have a family at home?  Are you a single?  Do you work?  Do you have health problems?  Can you afford to play hostess, or is she offering to help with expenses?  How much time do you have?  How much energy.  Are there others depending on you too?

Remember, the first priority for you is yourself and your family, if they're at home.  Then comes your job.  Then your outside commitments.  Then your friends.  Sure you want to help your friend, but not at the expense of your health, family, job, etc.  Think carefully about what you CAN do and decide what you WILL do.  Then tell your family what you plan to do.  If they're agreeable, go ahead.  If not, rethink the issue.  

When you know what you can and want to do, talk to your friend and set out your plan and your limits.  Make yourself clear and let her know you love her and want to help, but that you have priorities which must be met.  If she is the friend you think she is, she will be glad of what help you can give, and support you in your need to meet your other obligations too.  Friendship is a two way street, and respect for each others needs is essential for a healthy relationship.

Hope this helps.  I don't mean to sound like a mother, but experience tells me this is an important issue.  I hope it turns out well for you both.

Violet